Yesterday was a hot one and after I got home from work I spent a lot of time laying on the couch in front of the tv. It was quite late when I got around to finally putting this post together. With little energy and even less ideas, I scrolled through the archives. A beach picture jumped out at me and said "pick me"
I was thinking how funny it is that in the first couple weeks after Wade passed away, I had more visitors here than I've probably had in the past year. Of course after the first couple weeks all those people are gone and it's back to normal. Or is it? While I appreciated all those visits, what I appreciate more are the very few who continue to check up on me. I also appreciate all of you who come here every day to visit.
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It is true that at first, there is a lot of attention, food and visits. But I think a lot of people need their friends more after things quiet down, when the reality finally hits them. I am so very sorry.
Maybe people just don't like to keep intruding Anne. It's difficult to know if a bereaved person wants company or not.
Personally I think I would prefer to be on my own but we are all different. I hope you are okay and sorry that I am so far away, I would like to visit I'm sure we would have a lot in common.
Briony
x
I know how lonely it is after someone passes & leaves us behind. But yet, the quiet times are good also...BOTH are times to reflect & smile with the happy memories; cry of the sad ones.
All I can say is...take all the time you need & keep sharing with us. (((Ann)))
no words of advice, even though I have been TOLD by a certain Man that I know EVERYTHING, this is one thing I can't help with. but I can love you and give you cyber hugs and emails and wow you with all my attention.... HI...here is my visit for today 😍💕💋💋🙌😎😂
So glad you are getting visitors. I know you are having a rough time. We sure send you lots of hugs etc. Take care Ann.
Love the beach pic. Take care of yourself. The heat is just awful.
What a lovely beach scene!
People really don't know what to say or do if they have not lost their spouse or someone close themselves. At least that is my opinion.
Live your life the way that makes you feel comfortable. Keep your memories tucked into your heart. Be thankful for the love and time you shared with Wade. See the beauty in each day.
Love, hugs & prayers ~ FlowerLady
Great choice in pictures. The beach is always a hit when it's hot.
I'm sorry you're feeling alone. Losing someone you shared your life with is very hard. Know that I send you big hugs every single day.
Have a peaceful day, my friend. Big hug to you and lots of scritches to Gibbs. ♥♥♥
When someone asks "let me know what you need"...tell them that company for dinner one night would be nice...or a visit. People don't know what to do for you and it usually ends up keeping them away, sadly. Reach out...let people know that the visits were nice.
Hi Ann, Wish I was close enough to bring you dinner one night and sit and talk or craft together. I know this is a difficult time. Pls know that you are loved and prayed for daily.
I’m here, Ann, when you need me. Just call! I’m glad you don’t mind my checking on you so often. Looking forward to our beach day next week, maybe more pics of our own beach day will be taken. Praying for no rain!!
Asking for, and accepting help, is a gift - from you to the person you asking. You're a generous lady, give other people the gift of accepting their care.
See that was the thing. It was offered , I accepted and then they just haven't had the time to squeeze me in.
The thing was I took someone up on their offer of help but then they suddenly were busy and couldn't find time to do it any more
I'm trying. I am careful not to over do when outside and I spent a lot of time inside doing lazy things lol
I don't mind the alone time. I'm rather fond of it but now I get more of it than I really want
That's how I am, I feel like I'm intruding. I like being alone most of the time but I'm finding I'm getting bored easy
I agree. I really don't mind the alone time but I'm getting bored really easy
So one and done? Ay yi yi yi (as Sharla would say) - and yes life gets busy, so you need to reach out for what you need (or don't need.)
I'm glad you have some people who continue to check in on you. I hope the one who offered help and got too busy gets unbusy so they're able to help you soon. People have the right intentions but need to follow through too. Wish I was closer, I'd come help you even if it's to sit and talk and pet Gibbs!
People just seem to back to their own lives, don't they? I don't think most of them mean to ignore --but it happens. At times like this, you find who really are good friends and who are just acquaintances. When I quit blogging and was struggling ---so many of my blog friends just gave up on me. IF I wasn't able to go to others' blogs during those times, some people just quit checking on me. I see many of those people here on Blogger --but they don't come to my blog... Were they really my friends? NO---just acquaintances... It's just part of life.. As my friend, Judy,says: People are generally selfish these days --and only think of themselves.
You will know who your real friends are for sure.
Hugs,
Betsy
Thanks. All of my blog friends have been great. You guys are always here
((HUGS)) Unfortunately that is typical. I'm so sorry for all that you are going through. I think about you all the time. Take care.
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